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A story about My next ex-husband

by dragonfly is in a quandry (rhymes with laundry) — 2 years ago

He is the quintessential narcissist who is so good at loving himself he didn’t or doesn’t need me to love him.

He is the one who can (and does) rationalize stealing candy from a baby by telling himself it was for the baby’s own good.

He is the man your mother warned you about but wouldn’t recognize it was him because he is so attractive and is highly adept at flattering when it makes him look good.

He is the one who only keeps a promise if it benefits his own agenda and he is the one quick to break a vow if he changes his mind or gets irritated with you.

He is the one who holds a grudge but lies about it; even to the mirror. It is only when you look in his eyes and see the glint of rage that you know it is there.

He is the one I wish I had run from when I told myself to run. He is the one I got when I didn’t listen to myself.

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DyingMonster - Kevin
St. Louis

I married

a woman that fits this description. We should introduce them.

Apr 06, 08:12AM | 1 cheer | Respond to this

dragonfly is in a quandry (rhymes with laundry)
In My Head

that

would be an interesting match… all 12 rounds worth ;)

Apr 06, 10:02AM | 2 cheers | Respond to this

DyingMonster - Kevin
St. Louis

Really?

I don’t see it as a fight. If they are truly the same I think they would be happy in their lies. If anything it might be interesting to them to see who can get by with the most.

Did you experience the lie that can’t be called a lie? ex: The ex spouse touting the virtues of something knowing that it is to their benefit if you get interested and agree. Then once you have agreed the trap is sprung and you wind up with something they wanted. “Well you wanted it too.” Is their reply.

Devious . . .

Apr 06, 10:56AM | 1 cheer | Respond to this

dragonfly is in a quandry (rhymes with laundry)
In My Head

actually

i got the ‘lets buy a car i want because i don’t want to go through the effort of looking for a lower price but it has to be in your name since my credit sucks waxed fruit’ line. i got stuck with the car i couldn’t afford and didn’t want and he went out and bought himself a rag-top camero after we split. he was the type to just buy what he wanted and didn’t give a crap how i felt about it so he didn’t ever have to lie about those type of things. he only lied when it came to his affairs ::laughs, amused at the ~~lies~~ lives of selfish idiots::

i have so much i need to forgive this guy for. the biggest thing is i allowed him to strip me of self-worth and it still angers me that i let him do it.

and truthfully two truly self-absorbed individuals cannot get along for any prolonged period of time before one ends up getting thoroughly disgusted with the other. i know because i have seen my ex get into relationships with other selfish people and since neither was willing to give up on what they wanted a split is always in the future.

it sounds like your (ex?) spouse was manipulative and that is not nice ever. sorry :(. but on a happier note may you be prepared in the future to dissect conversations adeptly so you don’t get fleeced ;)

Apr 06, 12:16PM | Respond to this