May I give you a bit of advice? It comes with love, from one woman to another. I’m probably a bit older than you, hence, learned things you have yet to learn. Some the HARD way.

One thing I have learned about men is that most times, what a man will do to be WITH you, eventually he will do TO you. We all like to think that “we’re different”. Somehow women fool themselves into thinking that we are always the exception to the rule.

If James couldn’t bring himself to be honest with his girlfriend and break things off with her before becoming involved with you, why would he be any more honest with you? Are you certain they are actually broken up? Moreover, should you two become involved more seriously after the dust settles with his ex, will he betray you as well when he “no longer loves” you either?

People are creatures of habit. How we deal with one person, speaks volumes of how things will go with others.

Don’t allow yourself to be used as a pawn. Make sure you aren’t being used as some kind of “test” to see if he really DOES love his ex.

Rule of thumb, don’t allow yourself to get involved with anyone who is already involved. No matter WHAT the situation is, how bad he may claim things are, how NOT in love, whatever. If you demand that he break things off before getting involved at ALL with you, if he’s serious about you he’ll do the right thing. If he doesn’t, you just saved yourself from a lot of disappointment, especially in yourself.

Remember: Karma is a BITCH. And she’s a bitch with a LONG memory. If you believe in what goes around, comes around…guess what? What begins with betrayal usually ends the same way.

We teach others how to treat us. What are you teaching him about how to treat you with this? Be kind to yourself and demand others do the same.